This is Real Sex, Real Answers: An advice column that understands that sex and sexuality is complicated, and worth chatting about openly and without stigma — and that, sometimes, that means reaching out to a stranger on the internet for help. Rachel Charlene Lewis is a long-time reader and writer within the sexual wellness space, and is never not talking about sexuality. So why not join the conversation? Just one of the many unfair, damaging things that marginalized people have to deal with is constantly navigating the space between being our most honest, truest selves and not wanting to feed into stereotypes.
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That would happen later. First, I had to come out to myself. Growing up in a socially conservative religion, I was taught that sex was reserved for monogamously married men and women. Well, I could chalk that up to appraisal, not desire. Women check each other out all the time, I told myself. I want to be like them, not with them. And sure, I thought about kissing my best friend, but that was just hormones misfiring I blamed a lot on hormones misfiring.
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I read a ton of your letters and I know you always say people shouldn't snoop on the person they love, but I wasn't snooping. We are sharing a home computer, and I couldn't help but notice the opening line of the email that was sent to her. It said "I need you now. It looks like this has been going on for a long time behind my back. This woman who my wife has been loving on has a husband who is in the same battalion as me and I know him.
What do I do? I get many letters from all kinds of people — gay, straight, men, women, and everything in between — who suspect their husbands, wives, partners may be secretly bisexual, or have discovered that they are bisexual. The first thing is to understand that bisexuality is not a death sentence. It need not be a relationship-ending fork in the road. Nor does it mean that your partner has been lying to you all this time, either.